[tweetmeme]I’ve been hearing a lot of people lately say that you need to face your fears. When I hear this it reminds me of a story I was once told. Let’s say you are stuck down at the bottom of a well in the dark with a monster (your fears). There is someone up above yelling down to you and telling you to face the monster, telling you to face your fears. You face the monster time and time again. You feel brave and courageous because you are facing the monster head on. The problem with this is that you are still stuck in the well. As long as you stay down in the well the monster will always come back in one form or another, always. So why don’t you just climb out of the well? Climbing out of the well into the light is where freedom is.
Fears are illusions. They are created in your mind based on past experience and conditioning. Instead of staying in the well, miring around with your fears and the monsters that haunt you, realize them for what they are and climb out. If the person at the top of the well is someone who is telling you to face the monster instead of throwing you a rope to climb out I would highly question their expertise in the matter because, most likely, they are stuck in their own well.
I’ve talked about this before and a common response is usually something along the lines of, “fear can be beneficial” or “fear can be used to move us into action”. Perhaps this is so, but when you realize your fears for what they are and climb out of the well you come to a place where action moves from a much more powerful and effective place. You realize quite quickly that the benefits you thought you gained or the action you were moved toward was nothing compared the this new found fearless space. It doesn’t compare.
Come and see for yourself. Don’t believe me. Try it. Climb out of the well and be free. You’ll be pleasantly surprised. There is, quite literally, nothing to be afraid of.